Showing posts with label david. Show all posts
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Thursday, August 16, 2018

Numbers Two and Four

  
 
Back when we were in negotiations about having a fourth child*, Mr. V and I used to joke that we would only have a fourth if we knew it would be a girl with David’s disposition.

(*Negotiations mainly included me saying, “Another one baby, pleeeeease?” and Mr. V looking at me like I had three heads.)

We didn’t exactly decide to have a fourth baby, but she sprang into our lives nonetheless. And she is a girl. And an awful lot like her brother, David. 


(In case it’s been so long since I wrote about them you have no idea who I’m talking about, our kids are: Libbie [9], David [7], Joshua [5], and Hannah [22 months].)

While Libbie and Joshua seem to have sprung out of the womb independent and feisty, David emerged already a middle child, somehow. He was a difficult baby, but a shockingly easy toddler, happy to retreat to his bedroom and play quietly for hours. He threw fits over very few things, although he has always been on the more sensitive side and cried often. He nursed until he was 20 months, and possibly only stopped because I was pregnant with Joshua.

Now, at 7, David is still pretty quiet, happy to be playing by himself on his tablet or reading a book, and is often tugged back and forth between the more demanding Libbie and Joshua. He has the wild streak of a young boy, but his general temperament definitely feels like a middle child. (Whereas Joshua, although a middle child technically, seems to fit more into the role of youngest that he occupied for 3.5 years.) 


It’s struck me as funny the ways in which Hannah and David are alike. She doesn’t have that introverted temperament that we wished for, but it’s the smaller things that are striking. They both look more like my husband, where Libbie and Joshua are pretty much my mini-mes. They share a passionate love for fruit. Hannah also nursed well into toddlerhood; I had to cut her off because I went on a new antidepressant, and she was just shy of 21 months and still asking to nurse a LOT. They’re both tiny. They don’t laugh at EVERYTHING like Joshua, but their giggles are well-earned and infectious.

And Hannah LOVES her David. When he is there, she’ll happily ignore Mommy and Daddy to sink into his lap and demand he read her a book. Hold my hand in the parking lot? Not a chance. But David’s hand is just fine. They have a few phrases that David will repeat to her many, many times just because he knows it makes her laugh. And she shares his adoration for Captain Underpants. (Really, toddlers should not know the word “underpants,” but mine sure does.)

It’s sweet to see all of her relationships with her siblings, and this one seems extra-special. I hope David is always looking out for his loving little sis. 


Thursday, December 22, 2011

One Year

Dear David,

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On Tuesday, you turned 1! Crazy! I am pretty sure it was about 10 minutes ago that it was last Christmas, and you were being passed from arm to arm until you wanted to nurse. And then arm to arm to sleep.

Cutest little fireman ever!

I don't even know how to describe your personality. You are giggly and happy a lot of the time. Except when you're not. You have always been very sure of what you want and never failed to make it known. When you are mad, you're mad. You will pound things and throw things and wail like your little heart is breaking. This is possibly why you didn't sleep in a bed until you were at least 3 weeks old.

Right now, you sleep most nights from at least 7:30 to 4. It's not my favorite time to wake up, but it's better than 1 a.m. Some nights you make it until 6 or 7, and then I am ecstatic. You usually take at least one long nap and one shorter nap. You are a very light sleeper, which is a little unfortunate, especially since you share a room with your sister. 

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You have had a very healthy year, with just one ear infection and some sniffles here and there. You are maybe on the smaller side, but not from lack of eating. You still love to nurse and do so pretty often, as well as eating a lot of table food. Your favorite is fruit, and you would eat mandarin oranges, pineapple, and grapes until you exploded. I've never nursed a baby past a year, so I guess we're both playing this by ear; but given your enthusiasm for it still, I can't imagine just cutting you off now.

Carrot mustache!

You have 7 teeth, giant blue eyes, blonde hair, and sometimes I think I see a little dimple on one side of your cheek. You started crawling at 5 months and walking at 11, and at 12 months you're toddling along with some surety.

You love balls, dogs, cars, your sister, nursing, and shoving everything you find into your mouth. You dislike it when Mama walks anywhere near you without picking you up, being shoved over and choked by your sister, the vacuum cleaner, and running out of food you like.

My sweetie boy, my Doodle Bug, I didn't think I would ever have a son. But I do, and I love it, and you're awesome. I wouldn't trade all the sleep in the world for one of your precious giggles and grins. You are all boy, and that scares me a little, but I look forward to continuing to see your personality develop.

Love you so so much!

Mommy

Serious bliss.

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Monday, November 14, 2011

A Christmas Baby (No, Not That One.)



My little David is a Christmas elf. He was born December 20th. When you ask those with Christmas birthdays how they feel about it you get one of two responses. Either, "I love it! I always have family around then!" or "I HATE IT SO MUCH MY PARENTS MUST DESPISE ME TO HAVE CONCEIVED ME IN MARCH AND I CELEBRATE IN JUNE." Well then.

We're approaching David's first birthday. Let's not talk about how much it pains me to even write that! He is still my little tiny baby and I am not ready to give that up for toddlerhood. He is trying to walk and talk and play with Libbie and it's too much for my mama heart.

But anyway, I am trying to decide if I should do something for his first birthday. It feels wrong NOT to! I know we won't have any family there, obviously, because we will see them all the following weeks for Christmas. So ... will anyone come?

Right now I'm thinking of having an open house-type get-together the Saturday before his birthday. I realize most people will have something else that day, but maybe they would drop by. What do you think?

If we do have a mini-party, I think I am going with a snowflake/winter theme. Here's some of my inspiration.







Of course, if you know me you realize I mean a VERY simplistic version of these decorations. I'm not a very good party planner. And I haven't been able to convince Amanda to just throw one of my parties for me yet.

So, I want to hear it. What's your advice for Christmas babies?

Speaking of parties, last week my sweet bloggy friend Mary released her first e-book, Plan a Fabulous Party without Losing Your Mind.


Is that not the most hilarious cover ever?

Seeing that Mary's blog is Giving Up on Perfect, her writing speaks to me! (Because really, I am forced to give up on perfect each and every day. Good enough is the new perfect, or something like that, right?)

I had the privilege of proofreading Plan a Fabulous Party and if I do throw a little David shindig, I will definitely be referencing my copy! It has tips for planning, decorating, and food, along with cute quotes, tricks, and pointers for every kind of get-together.

You can buy it using that link above or get it for your Kindle on Amazon. With the holidays quickly approaching ... it can't hurt to have some quick party tips at your fingertips! The book is $7.99, but with code FABPARTY you can get $3 off through tomorrow, 11/15.

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Monday, October 17, 2011

Two Babies

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I remember watching Libbie, sitting in the primary-color bouncy seat, as she grasped a toy. I grinned from ear-to-ear. My mom was there, a rare treat for both of us, and we sat and stared at my months-old princess simply because her fingers were wrapped around a piece of pink plastic.

"Is everything as exciting with your second child?" I asked her. "Do you still get excited about the little things?"

I don't remember her answer, but now I know.

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With babies are close together in age as mine are, you don't always have time to notice those first tiny things. I might be elated to find that David was grasping, or self-feeding, or cutting another tooth ... if I weren't putting Libbie in time-out for pulling him around on the carpet by his arms or calming her as she screams that he's stolen her bowl of cereal yet again.

I was upset that he started dragging himself around on the floor as soon as he learned to sit up on his own; gone were the dreams that he could play by himself for a few minutes. Am I the only mother to bemoan the fact that her child can crawl? Out comes the vacuuming and securing and plastic plug-things and hoping that he just won't hit his head falling this time.

So maybe the answer is no, it's not as exciting with the second little one. But here is what I find different.

I cling to his little body, sucking in deep breaths of baby shampoo and snuggling an angel-soft cheek. "Don't grow up!" I cry, even though of course I don't mean it. What choice do we have but desire their growth ... yet at the same time I find myself hanging on desperately to the baby-ness of him in a way I never knew with his sister.

They can tell you it goes by so fast until it comes out of your ears and you'll never know until you get there. Until your tiny baby is almost three and sassy and hilarious and more of a girl than a toddler. When you set the two babies side by side and ask yourself, "How on earth did she go from this to that so quickly?"

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That's why I kiss his cheek when he's nursing. Why I rub his sweet head and tickle tiny feet and take mental photographs of his precious belly button.

Someday I'll catch a whiff of Aveeno shampoo, or see a baby spit up on his mother's shirt and think, "How? How is it already gone?" 

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Thursday, June 30, 2011

Six Months

I woke up at 5:30 a.m. on David's 6-month "birthday," and couldn't get back to sleep, so fierce was my need to write. Here's what spilled out onto my dad's laptop.

It's June 20th, and David is 6 months old today.

David is 6 months!

That morning I went in for my last appointment with Leigh, I'm not sure what I expected. Definitely to have progressed farther than I was, since my contractions had been coming and going for the better part of a week. I had always hoped to go into labor on my own again; having a natural delivery with pitocin was out of the question for me. I'd heard the horror stories.

Did a little piece of me know Leigh would an induction that day? Maybe. I had it in my mind that Leigh wanted to get David out so she could have her Christmas vacation in peace. And oh, did I want him out. Nine months of exhaustion, running after Libbie while being in various stages of wanting to throw up or lie down right there. Bread-baking and whole foods had all but been thrown out the window. It's hard to put something in the oven when you can barely bend over.

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Being induced by having my water broken was not what I wanted, neither was it exactly pleasant. I know my labor was much more painful as a result.

But oh, sweet David, you were worth every second. I love that little guy so incredibly much. It's so easy to love a baby, compared to a two-year-old. OF COURSE I love them both immensely, equally, but loving Libbie is just harder some days. (And loving David did get easier when he wasn't waking up every three hours any more.)

Disney PR peeps? You need this adorableness.

I find myself wishing I could capture every moment of David on video right now, because he is too precious for words, too cute for just pictures. I worry my memory will not keep fresh his toothless smiles and giggles, the way he flirts with someone he meets and then hides his head, his possessive hand on my chest while he nurses with glee, the way he is already scooting backwards and trying to crawl.

I had never until this week thought maybe I don't want any more kids. Maybe I don't have any more love to go around, my heart is so full. (And oh, the shudder at the thought of being pregnant again. I love the kicks and movement, the knowledge ... but I hate everything else.)

Only God knows what the future brings. I guess we shall see.

Happy half-birthday, David. Mommy loves you bunches!

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Monday, May 30, 2011

Be Wise, Be Innocent


Our precious David,

Yesterday at church, we gave you to God.

No, we didn't exactly leave you there on the altar, to follow Pastor Myron around. But in front of our church family, we promised to raise you in the church, in a home that teaches you about Jesus and leads by example.

One of the crazy things about families is that children don't really belong to their parents. They are given from God and they already belong to God. He cares about them even more than their parents do, which is hard to fathom. What we did yesterday was simply symbolic: saying that we agree with God's plan for you. You are His.

During my pregnancy with you, I couldn't get these verses from Romans out of my head and heart:

I want you to be wise about what is good, yet innocent about what is evil. The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet. Romans 16:19b-20a, HCSB

What more could a mommy want for her baby? In a world where kids grow up so fast, I want you to be innocent. Not so innocent that you are unaware, of course, but so wise about what is good that you cannot give in to evil. I want to teach you what is good, what is right, what is pure, what is noble. I want to impress upon your heart the Truths of Scripture, so fiercely inscribed that you couldn't get rid of them if you tried.

I believe you are destined to be a great man of God, David. Crush Satan. Lead the way. Do what you need to do and go where you need to go. Serve Him with all your heart, mind, and strength.

I love that these verses refer to God as the God of peace. It is what makes our God unique. Christ came as a peacemaker, not as the warrior the Jews expected.

I will try, sweetheart, to be the best example of Christian love I can be. I will fail. I will yell. But I will love you to the ends of the earth.

Thank you for being my precious one, my son, my cuddle bug. I love you.

Mommy


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Friday, May 20, 2011

Saturday Linky Love

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My baby is 5 months old today (Friday)! Can anyone tell me how that happened?



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Now that you've said "Ahhhhh!" and your womb is crying ... here are some links for you to visit.

  • How to Substitute Eggs in Recipes at Once a Month Mom - Helpful hints, especially if you're like me and sometimes get halfway through a recipe before you realize you're out of something.
  • Ten Tips for New Runners at Eclipsed - I haven't really mentioned here that I've been doing a Christian Couch to 5K-type program called Run for God. Maybe because I don't want to be held accountable. These tips are great and very encouraging to me!
  • Training Minds Away from Twaddle at Raising Arrows
  • How to Make Your Own Sourdough Starter at A Good and Simple Life - This seems a lot easier than some I have seen. Except finding a place in my house that's above 80 degrees but below 85???
  • Five Minutes on Seasons at OhAmanda - so true. I called a friend with older kids this week crying, just to hear that this season was not forever. (That would be the no-sleep season. I love little babies ... I just miss sleeping.)
Did you read or write anything great this week?

Added to Saturday Stumbles at Simply Staci.

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    Friday, May 13, 2011

    Why I Don't Think We Are Done Having Kids

    This cracked me up.

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    I mean, seriously. I think Mr. V and I should be selling embryos our kids are so darn cute. (JUST KIDDING.)

    But really ... we've always talked about trying to have four kids. And since just a few days after David's (PAINFUL) birth, I've been pretty sure I'm not done wanting to have babies, no matter how much pregnancy disagrees with me. I would like to wait a little while .... famous last words, right? ;)

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    Monday, May 09, 2011

    Having a Son

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    Before we had children, I would have been the first person to tell you that I didn't really want to have boys.

    For one, I just didn't think I would. My mom's side of the family is rather matriarchal. In one of my favorite anecdotes, my mom went to the OBGYN when she was pregnant with me; and, because of my heartbeat, the nurse told her I was probably a boy.

    My mom says she told the nurse, "I have FOUR sisters and FIVE nieces. This is a girl."

    She was right. Obviously. (Although she did go on to have six nephews, as well as two more nieces, just on her side of the family.)

    So, I always thought I would have all girls. Having just a sister, girls were all I knew.

    Secondly, I am plain scared of boys. Little boys who wrestle. Bigger boys who pee in public. Older boys who think too much with that thing they use to pee. It all scares me. Give me princesses, dolls, tea cups. I can do that. Rocks, fighting, He-Men, snakes? Enough to make me hide under the covers.

    From week five or six of this pregnancy, I was convinced that tiny baby inside me was a boy. I based this entirely on the fact that my sickness was completely different than when I was pregnant with Libbie. (And if I can have a choice in the future ... I would choose Libbie-sickness over David-sickness any day.) I was sick as a dog, but couldn't throw up. Nothing sounded good, ever. I barely got off the couch for weeks.

    Because I had that premonition, I was none too surprised when the woman taking my gall-bladder ultrasound, whom I had begged to take a look at the baby, told me she was 98% sure this wee one was male.

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    Since he's been born, people have asked me whether having a boy is different than having a girl. I usually respond that I don't know if it's boy/girl or first child/second child differences. David is definitely more mellow. But much less textbook than Libbie. He has strong opinions and makes them known.

    But since Libbie was very small, I've always felt the push of independence -- and quite a bit of prima donna attitude. Those don't radiate from my small boy. He wants Mama, all the time. He is my sweet-as-sugar Doodle Bug.

    He is everything everyone told me a nursing boy would be.

    I'm reassured to know that when Libbie is 13 and hates my guts, David will still love me. Right? I'm looking forward to having that mother-son relationship. To knowing the ups and downs of having children of both sexes.

    I'm sure it will be a wild ride, but I think I'm ready.

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    Monday, April 25, 2011

    Top Ten Tuesday: My Baby Hates Sleep

    David is an angel baby. He is smiley, happy, cooey, albeit pretty drooly. He nurses happily, happily spits up, and giggles as he gets his clothes changed.

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    But he hates to sleep.

    At four months, the longest he has ever slept is 6 hours. And that is very rare. I am so tired I feel like I am sleepwalking a lot of the time. It is hard to have an infant and a toddler. HARD!

    David is a tummy sleeper; he will only sleep about 15 minutes on his back and then wake up and cry about it. For the past three weeks, since he learned to turn from belly to back, he will roll over every 2-3 hours all night long, and then wake up and cry. He can't roll from back to belly.

    Again ... it's a good thing he's usually happy and insanely cute.

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    Mostly in jest, here are 10 ways I have considered getting David to sleep longer.

    1. Duct taping him laying on his tummy, as suggested on my Facebook Fan Page.

    2. Swaddling. SwaddleMe? Nope. Miracle Blanket? Not a chance. He will wriggle until he is free or scream bloody murder until released from the restrictive cocoon. (If anyone would like to purchase an open but very much unused Miracle Blanket from me, shoot me an email. jessie at vanderbiltwife dot com.)

    3. Co-sleeping. I like co-sleeping in theory. But in practice, I have a really hard time sleeping if there is a baby in the bed because I roll around a lot. I cannot get comfortable and therefore am getting even less sleep than I was before. We often end up co-sleeping some of the night if I fall asleep while nursing. The rest of the time he is still in a pack-and-play right by my side of the bed.

    4. Just swaddling on the bottom half so he can't roll over. We tried this. It worked for two nights, and then he figured it out. Dang it!

    5. Putting him in his crib in another room because maybe he would sleep better if he couldn't hear us Mr. V snoring or our moving around. Wrong. I have tried this a few nights but I just get frustrated walking the entire length of our ranch house back and forth a million times. If he's going to sleep the same in the pack and play or in his crib, I'd rather have him where I don't have to get out of bed.

    6. Permanently attaching him to my chest. At least he's quiet then.

    7. Duct taping the pacifier to his mouth. See: #1, also: child abuse. David knows the paci puts him to sleep, so he rips it out of his mouth constantly.

    8. Blanket sleepers. It is already 85 during the day here. I don't want him to sweat and be miserable, not to mention I probably don't need another SIDS risk.

    9. Nursing every hour during the day in the hopes he wouldn't get hungry at night. I would honestly do this if I thought it would help. But he's not going to eat if he's not hungry, so the chances he would do it are slim to none.

    10. Trying to enjoy babyhood and remembering this too shall pass.

    Do you have any super tips for me? Cause I have to go ... he's awake. AGAIN. (No, he doesn't like to nap either.)

    Please don't leave chastising comments about all the reasons I shouldn't co-sleep, have him tummy sleep, etc. I have a pediatrician to tell me those things and I know the risks.

    Added to Top Ten Tuesday at OhAmanda.

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    Tuesday, March 29, 2011

    Two Reasons

    Some days I just want to get on here and grouch. Today is one of those days. We had an especially rough day yesterday.

    But I decided that it's just not profitable to grouch.

    I have two good reasons to try to stay in a good mood.







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    Tuesday, March 22, 2011

    Wordless Wednesday: 3 months times 2.

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    David at 3 months


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    I definitely think they look similar, but not super alike. Someday I will have to scan mine and Mr. V's baby pictures in here and do a comparison!

    Someone told us tonight that we do make very beautiful kids. I would have to agree.

    Added to Wordless Wednesday here, here, and here. For more WW posts from me, click here!

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    Tuesday, March 08, 2011

    Wordless Wednesday

    After yesterday, I think we just need some cute baby pictures on this here blog. Don't you?

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    Libbie is, in fact, 2 going on 16.

    Added to Wordless Wednesday at 5 Minutes for Mom.

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    Monday, February 28, 2011

    Another Adventure

     David is 10 weeks old today.

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    I have two Monday babies, and the day Libbie turned 10 weeks old was my first day back at work after her birth.


    I claim to love the baby time more than the toddler time (and I know that is swapped for a lot of people). But I also know I didn't experience all the baby time with Libbie. I didn't wrestle her to nap, change all of her diapers, or fish the pacifier off the floor 8,000 times a day (only 3,000 times).

    Of course everything is already different, because I have a baby and a toddler. I will never know what it would have been like to be at home with just one little baby during her formative months. (I really am not bitter, just truthful, right?) But that is past. And now I feel like today marks the beginning of a new adventure for me: staying at home with an infant.

    I'm excited to see all of his developments and firsts myself. I'm less excited to change every diaper, especially the blowouts. I'm excited to not spend two hours a day strapped to my breastpump. I'm less excited to have to schedule life around the naps and feedings of two children.

    I wouldn't give up staying at home for anything; yet, I still miss my job. I miss getting dressed and brushing my teeth every morning, seeing my co-workers every day, and being involved in some amazing Bible study projects. I was good at my job. A lot of days I feel that I've already failed abysmally in this new profession.

    I sit here, blogging, with my baby boy snuggled against my chest and realize this is not something I got to do with Libbie. Our hours between work and bedtime were slim. (Plus David is just more of a cuddlebug.) I love it.

    The stories of their infancies will be different. But both sweet and good, I surmise. Both tough, both filled with charmed moments.

    As always, I'm willing to ride it out and see what God does with it. And I'm excited.
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